WE ALL go through those moments in our lives when we fear that something wrong might happen. We fear that we may lose our jobs, fail a test or examination, lose a loved one or not perform at our best during that office presentation.
And most of the time these fears appear so real that we often have sleepless nights.
I just wanted to take this moment to assure you that there is no person on this Earth who is fear-resistant. We are all capable of being fearful. What is important is not to let fear dominate your thoughts. If you let fear control your life, indeed you will have sleepless nights, you will be sad and miserable.
Fear that your loved one will leave you will often make you paranoid that you will start interpreting each small activity or event as an attempt at leaving you. When your phone call is not answered you may start thinking that he or she is cheating on you, even when there is a very logical explanation such as no network coverage, flat battery or simply that he or she was busy with work.
Your fear of failing an examination or not getting the required entry points for that course at that prestigious university will stress you to the point where you actually fail to qualify.
Your fears become more powerful when you dwell on them. It is for this reason that you need to make it a point in your life to concentrate only on positive aspects of everything that happens in your life. You need to make your fears work for you. It is commonly said that the fear of death through disease led to breakthroughs in creating medicine, meaning that the desire to heal people from disease led the scientists to discovering pills that can be taken to deal with different forms of illnesses.
In the same way, you need to use every amount of fear that you have to your advantage. How? By ensuring that you do your best; if you fear that your loved one might leave you then you simply need to work on what you have control over, yourself. Work on those habits that he or she has a problem and concentrate on positive aspects of every situation.
If you fear failing a test or examination, let that fear propel you to study more or approach that teacher to assist you in a subject where you are not doing well.
Think positively, positive thoughts empower you and make you feel stronger and more confident.
According to Brian Tracy, â€˜Your mind can hold only one thought at a time, positive or negative. You can substitute a positive thought for a negative thought whenever you choose.â€™
Every day, all through the day you have choices. You can choose to concentrate on the positive part by starving all the negative emotions.
You need to constantly imagine yourself accomplishing your goals, see yourself healthy and happy. Keep your mind on the things you want and off the things you do not want.
Never let negative thoughts get into the way of you becoming the best that you can ever be. Do your best and leave the rest up to God.
After all fear, according to Jack canfield, is nothing but â€˜fantasised experiences appearing realâ€™.
Think of one moment in your past when you were really afraid that something terrible was going to happen. Looking back you will find that it did not even happen as bad as you thought it would happen. That is fear at its best.
Refuse to let negative thoughts control you.
The author is a motivational speaker and writer.Â firstname.lastname@example.org.