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Five issues couples should not avoid discussing

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LOVE & LIFE ISSUES With EMMANUEL MUKULA
I BELIEVE that a key component in any relationship, especially a romantic one , i s communication. It is imperative to have strong lines of communication open and functional if you want a relationship to have any chance of being successful. The first step in improving and developing a strong relationship is taking the initiative and discussing important topics. Here are the five relationship issues people don’t discuss until it’s too late.
1. Finances – It’s important to be on the same page when it comes to finances. Discuss what money is coming in, going out and the investment decisions being made. Most couples argue about money, at some point in their relationship, but the key is developing a solution. Come up with a budget that allows both parties to be involved and allows each individual to have an opportunity to voice their feedback. Do not be married but withhold issues of finances from your partner. Work together on your finances.
2. Trust – As ironic as it may be, a lot of couples do not discuss their issues with trust until it’s too late. Instead of waiting until the trust circle is broken, couples should make it a priority to talk about the trust within their relationship. Discussing this topic early will help to alleviate any insecurities and build a sense of security in each other. Try by all means to talk about trust and both agree on matters of trust.
3. Intimacy – Though it is usually avoided, intimacy is a very important subject that should be discussed openly by couples. While the general subject may cause people to blush or feel uneasy, intimacy is an important topic of discussion that couples should have on a regular basis. If you’re not comfortable discussing topics around sex, with your partner, then there is a deeper issue at hand that should be addressed. Make sure that you’re completely honest with your partner, so that no one feels like they’re being left behind or in the dark as regards intimacy.
4. Feelings – Be honest about your feelings of the time. Learn to communicate how you feel to your partner and do not leave them guessing. It’s important to not propose a stand-offish persona when it comes to your feelings and your partner. Be upfront and let your partner know how you’re feeling despite any fears you may have. If feelings are not discussed in the present, then aggression and anxiety will build up and cause a much worse outcome that may be irreversible for the future. Strive to be honest and instead of worrying about the other’s reaction, be more consumed with how to improve the situation at hand and enjoy being in that relationship with your spouse.
5. Past relationships – It’s important when beginning a relationship that you lay everything out in the open. Your partner has the right to know what they must know. Being entirely honest will give the person the opportunity to bail before feelings are invested and cultivated. Have a Q and A session that gives each individual the opportunity to ask the questions that they deem important and worthwhile for the relationship to go on being healthy. Disclosing prior relationships will alleviate any possible surprises in the future – which will also eliminate any future arguments that may lead to breaking up.
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