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Dealing with disappointment

Can we help? with PASTOR & MRS BANDA
Dear Raphael and Namukolo,
I AM feeling rather low. Nothing seems to be working out in my life. How does one deal with disappointment? Blues.
Dear Blues,
Feelings of disappointment are normal. It is how we handle them which is important as that will determine how long we will be subjected to this dark cloud and how much damage it can cause.
Disappointment consists of low feelings we get when we fail to attain a desired goal in life. Many things can trigger it for example; failing exams; a broken relationship; failing to get a job we applied for; etc.
If not managed well disappointment can quickly degenerate into discouragement and even depression. A spirit of discouragement will in turn tend to paralyse our lives.
The psalmist gives us a glimpse into the life of a person who is discouraged and also how he gets out of the negative situation.
Psalm 42:1-6 NIV As the deer pants for streams of water, so my soul pants for you, O God. (2) My soul thirsts for God, for the living God. When can I go and meet with God? (3) My tears have been my food day and night, while men say to me all day long, “Where is your God?” (4) These things I remember as I pour out my soul: how I used to go with the multitude, leading the procession to the house of God, with shouts of joy and thanksgiving among the festive throng. (5) Why are you downcast, O my soul? Why so disturbed within me? Put your hope in God, for I will yet praise him, my Savior and (6) my God. My soul is downcast within me; therefore I will remember you from the land of the Jordan, the heights of Hermon–from Mount Mizar.
The root of discouragement is to be found in Psalm 42.3,10 in the question, ‘Where is your God?’
Immediately we remove God from the picture, we forfeit his peace and discouragement will immediately enter our hearts.
The remedy for a discouraged spirit is therefore to be found in giving back to God his rightful place in our lives. It does not lie in changing our circumstances! God’s peace can operate in any circumstance. The psalmist realises this in verses 5 and 11b and turns to God for the answer.
We can bring God back into the picture by doing a number of things for example:
We must acknowledge that life on earth will not always be smooth sailing. The Lord Jesus Christ warned his disciples to this effect. John 16:33 NIV I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.
We must follow his prescription for our given situation. For example, if the source of your discouragement is physical fatigue, take a break, go on leave, relax, and eat. This is what God does with Elijah. If it is relationships breaking down, God has given us procedures to follow.
We must meditate on God’s attributes and remind ourselves of his power. Especially when you are faced with those situations which seem to be too big and too difficult for a human solution. Jeremiah 32:27 NIV I am the LORD, the God of all mankind. Is anything too hard for me?
You must learn to resign yourself into God’s care for those things you cannot do anything about. ‘In his time he makes all things beautiful’. We must similarly learn to wait upon the Lord. Psalm 130:5-7 NIV I wait for the LORD, my soul waits, and in his word I put my hope. (6) My soul waits for the Lord more than watchmen wait for the morning, more than watchmen wait for the morning. (7) O Israel, put your hope in the LORD, for with the LORD is unfailing love and with him is full redemption.
The bible promises us that those who wait upon the Lord will renew their strength. Isaiah 40:29-31 NIV He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. (30) Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; (31) but those who hope in the LORD will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.
And so dear Blues we greatly encourage you to surrender your life to God and you will find that those things which brought you down will no longer be able to do so.
Violence is a sign of a corrupt mind. Genesis 6:11 Now the earth was corrupt in God’s sight and was full of violence.
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