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Where is this violence coming from?

DEAR pastor,
My friend wants to marry me in a gay relationship. I love my friend, what should I do?
ANS: Dear brother, it is a pity you have found yourself in such an awkward situation. The Holy Bible does not favour same sex relationship. Any sort of it, is described as perversion (Romans 1:18-27). The apostle Paul describes it as shameful. Same sex relationship is final order of rebellion against God. When values are turned upside down and moral anarchy appears, men burn with lust for other men, women with other women and the repercussion is too great to bear.
Further, God’s commandments (Leviticus 18:22, 24-30, 20:13) forbids man marrying fellow man and woman with woman, such relationships or marriages are looked upon as an abomination in the sight of God (1 Corinthians 6:9-10). The laws of our land do not permit gay relationships, let alone our Zambian customs.
However, what is important in life is to do what pleases your creator. Ask yourself these questions. Will your action honour God? Will your action of marrying a fellow man glorify God? (Colossians 3:17).
After creating a woman, God said, for this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife, and the two shall be one flesh (Genesis 2:24).
From the Biblical stand point, the rise of homosexuality is a clear indication that society is in the last stages of decay. If you are a person who wants to please God, come out of such an awkward relationship. It is not about pleasing your friend but you owe an allegiance to God your Creator. Love God more than your friend. Tell your friend bluntly that you do not subscribe to such relationships, for it is an abomination in the sight of God. God does not recognise marriage between man and man, but man and woman. Blessings!
How to end an affair
Dear pastor,
How can I end an affair in the right way?
ANS: Well friend, the following few tips may suffice. First things first, tell your spouse about the affair and how sorry you are about it. The wayward spouse should make a commitment to the betrayed spouse to never see or talk to the lover again. The wayward spouse should write a letter to the lover ending the relationship and send it with the approval of the betrayed spouse.
Extraordinary precautions should be taken to guarantee total separation of the wayward spouse and the lover. If the lovers are co-workers, a job change or relocation may be needed.
All communication between the wayward spouse and lover should cease. This includes changing your e-mail address, telephone number and cellphone number.
Make all future financial decisions jointly, and give each other a complete account of money spent. Spend your leisure time together. Blessings!
Should I leave hubby because of alcoholism?
Dear pastor,
IT began innocently. As the years passed, hubby who drank moderately now has fallen into a pattern of drinking past the buzz resulting in a drunk. I have realised this is not the man I married and I know something is terribly wrong. I feel betrayed by a man who insisted that does not take alcohol. I am restless and uncomfortable in my own home. Should I leave him and be at peace with my life?
ANS: Dear troubled wife, sometimes marriage comes with unexpected eventualities. Leaving your husband because of habitual drinking is not the best solution to your situation. When we pledged to love one another, in sickness and in health, neither of us knew what that covenant meant. To love a drunk is to love any sinner hanging on to their life. 1 Corinthians 13 describes real love.
In light of your husband’s battle with alcoholism, this passage says so much about real love. Love never gives up even when you just want “a normal life”. An alcoholic is one for the rest of their lives, whether they quit drinking or kill themselves abusing, so love has to prepare for the worst but never give up hope. Love won’t keep a score or throw shame in the face of the drunk. Love takes pleasure in the slow flowering of truth, which is a gradual openness, in part due to long suffering understanding.
Love gently wipes vomit from a loved one’s face. Love trusts God always and looks for goodness over and over in a person you don’t recognise, remembering the person you do love. There will be times when you won’t want to go on, but love does. Love goes on. The church should come in and respond to your struggles with grace. One day, things will change for better. Blessings!
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Dear pastor,
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Dear pastor,
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Dear pastor,
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Dear pastor,
I am a single mother with one child looking for a life partner who is also single, aged 42-50, must be a Zambian and God fearing man.
Dear pastor,
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Dear pastor,
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Marriage: Spouses spend your leisure time together. Blessings!
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