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Tribalism rocks marriage

ONE would think that 50 years after Zambia gained its independence, tribal issues would not exist in marriages.
However, the Lusaka Boma Courts heard that tribal issues run deep when a Lusaka house wife Enala Musonda narrated to senior presiding magistrate Abbyshine Michelo and senior court magistrate Linda Tembo that her husband’s relatives asked him to divorce her because she is not Lozi.
Musonda, 45, of Zani Muone township was in court after she sued Charles Namakando, 54, of Burma Barracks for marriage reconciliation. The two got married in 2012 and have no children together.
Musonda told the court that when they got married in January 2012, all was well until April the same year when Namakando told her that his relatives wanted him to marry a fellow Lozi.
“The issue of me being Bemba persisted and I called my sister who asked Namakando why he wanted to divorce me. Namakando told my sister that it was his relatives who were against the marriage. Musonda’s step-children also did not want me,” she said.
Musonda said when Namakando was transferred to Choma he stopped supporting. She said she has only received K2,000 this year.
She, therefore, decided to sue Namakando.
Musonda said when she fell sick in April this year, her husband never gave her money to go to the hospital, and that it was her friend who helped her with money for treatment.
Musonda said although she still loves Namakando, she would rather leave him so that he can make his relatives happy by marrying a Lozi woman.
And Namakando told the court that trouble in their marriage started when he was transferred to Choma. This was when Musonda started mistreating his children accusing them of stealing food and money.
He said: “This woman does not care about my family. She would not even accompany me whenever I had a funeral. It is best we divorce”.
Passing judgment, Magistrate Tembo said it is clear that there was no love between Musonda and Namakando and so they could not be reconciled.
She, however, said failure by the court not to reconcile the couple does not mean divorce is granted, “If you feel the need, one of you can sue for divorce”.