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“Should I divorce my adulterous wife?’

GODLY COUNSEL with EVANGELIST KATAI
Morning Pastor, HOPE you and family are fine. I am a man aged 32 and married for 6 years with no kids. Last year I had a relationship which resulted in a child outside marriage. I was sorry for what I did to my wife and I am still with her. Recently she told me she also committed adultery last year in order to avenge what I did.

I have been hurt, should I divorce her because the woman is not supposed to be equal with the man. Please
I need your help as I am typing this text I feel like exploding with anger.
ANS: Angry brother, thanks for your text. Who gave you such a lecture
that a woman is not equal to a man and in what sense if I may ask? When you committed adultery you never thought of the feelings of your partner.
Imagine how you feel now that’s how she felt then. The way you want to explode is exactly how your wife almost exploded at the time you cheated on her. This does not mean I am supporting her action but merely telling you how she felt when you sinned against your God, wife and your own body. (I Corinthians 6:15-19). Two wrongs cannot make a right. The onus lies on you as a man to come to terms with your wife unless you have a hidden agenda against your wife. I don’t see any tangible reason that should lead to divorce. Don’t blow up friend, calm down forgive each other and move on together. Blessings!
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Hi pastor
How are you? I have been in a relationship for 9 months but the man has stopped answering my calls and replying text messages. Please help.
ANS: Sis thanks for your text. If your man has stopped answering your calls and texts, kindly pay him a visit and have a chat with him to find your way forward. It is from this meeting that you will be able to tell whether he is with you or not. Depending on the outcome you can call it quits or you can rejuvenate your relationship. Blessings!
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Hi Pastor,
I am a man aged 20 and I was in a relationship with a girl for more than 8 months. At one point in time we differed and I went out of town and after three months I returned only to learn that my girl was in a relationship with one of my friends. I felt so bad and powerless; it is now two months since it happened. Can I go back to the girl or not? Because I still love her very much and I don’t know if I will love another girl like that. Need your help.
ANS: Disappointed brother thanks for your text. Should you go back or not? In my view, I feel it will be a shear waste of time for you to go back to this girl. She has already made up her mind. It is better you look elsewhere for another suitable and loving girl. I wish to dismiss your assumption that you cannot find another girl like her. My friend, there are plenty of girls out there waiting for someone to love them. Forget about that girl and courageously move forward. Blessings!
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Hi Pastor,
I am Christian, gifted as a pastor and I have been assisting the senior pastor for 15 years. The problem is that my wife refuses to be called amai busa by church members. This has made members to doubt me. I have tried
to talk to her but she says she is not ready for that because such comes with responsibility. Please help because do not want to stop fellowshipping.
ANS: Assistant Pastor thanks for your text. Why should members doubt you after working for 15 years in the same church? Don’t be discouraged nor stop fellowshipping. That is a non-issue. If you were pastoring in America how will members address your wife? Still amai busa? She can be courteously addressed as sister Katai or Mrs Katai. There is nothing wrong with this. Your office and hers are totally different. Wife does not become pastor by virtue of getting married to you, she remains house wife and that is her office and she should be addressed so. These are just titles of men, for there is no scriptural backing for pastor’s wife. Blessings!
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Tip of the week
Marriage: “If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her”. (I Corinthians 7:12).
More answers in the next edition and ensure you get a copy every Sunday. Meanwhile let’s continue interacting via email pkatai@yahoo.com or thabokatai@gmail.com or sms 0967/0955-778068.


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