Kid's Corner

How to raise responsible children

A BABY’s brain is described as “the most powerful learning machine in the universe”. An infant enters the world primed to absorb all the sights, sound and sensations that surround him. Above all, the infant is intrigued by other human-faces, voices and touch.
All of these are most frequently and readily available in the form of parental care, no wonder parents play a vital role in the development of a child into a responsible adult! How do parents do this?
In an interview, Gabria Simbaya, a mother and teacher at Nkana Primary School said, parents should set a good example by spending time with their children, having good moral standards and supervising what they do.
For example it is very important for parents to spend time with their children because in this way parents will be able to know their children i.e. their weaknesses, strengths etc. if not, then the child will just be calling whomever he sees, “Mama”.
As children grow, they explore the boundaries of their expanding world. They do this by interacting with more people such as playmates, schoolmates and extended family. And once they start school, they are exposed to different things.
Parents should use these years to teach their child the value of obedience and good manners. Also of importance is to provide direction with regard to right and wrong. The skills just described do not come quickly and intuitively but parents should reprove, reprimand, exhort, with all long-suffering and art of teaching.
There are challenges in raising a responsible child. Children need to learn the art of listening, for everything there is an appointed time. Meaning, there is a time to speak and a time to listen. How can parents teach their children to pay attention when parents themselves do not? One way is to lead by example.
Mary Kabamba, a mother of eight (8), had this to say, “Parents should have good morals, must be generous, and also must be kind. Children may follow the good side of parents, children will be more responsible, but if it is vice versa, the results will not good”.
Children can be trained to develop the ability to forgive. How? By letting the child observe and see you as a parent display a spirit of forgiveness in your dealing with others.
The ability to resolve differences and forgive will be necessary in adulthood. Train children now to be considerate of others and to accept responsibility for their own mistakes. By doing so parents will be imparting a valuable gift that will serve them well as they grow, into responsible children.
Disciplining children should never take the form of brutal punishment or abuse either physically or emotionally. How can a parent restrain their own temper when their child has pushed their patience to the limit? Because if parents do the opposite, the child will be affected in a bad way physically and emotionally.
Even if a child has done something particularly obnoxious, parents should talk to them about the kind of person they are expected to be.
So, for children to grow into responsible adults, they need help and everyone’s support especially that of their parents.
The author of this article, is a member of the Children’s News Agency (CNA), Kitwe Bureau.

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