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Speak Out on Violence: DORIS KASOTE
AFTER losing his job, he had to move his family to his parents’ home.
Though the wife resisted, she had no choice. When the husband had a good job, he did not think of building a house for his family. His focus was to play around with money.
Reality dawned when his contract was not renewed. He realised that he could not continue paying rent from his gratuity.
When he moved his family to his parents’ house, he was rarely home. He usually went out to look for a job. The wife was tormented by her in-laws. She was treated like a maid. Her in-laws would remind her of how unhelpful her and the husband were when he had a good job, though she said as a couple, they were always on hand to help her in-laws.
She recalls how the in-laws would make her wake up early in the morning to clean the house and do all the other house chores. The only time she rested was when she put her head on the pillow to take a rest at night.
Her children were also expected to help out with house chores, not that there is anything wrong, but children should be given time to rest and attend to their school work. Unfortunately, this did not happen. They were reminded that they had to work for the shelter and the food they were enjoying, adding that if it was not for the in-laws, they would have found themselves on the streets.
It was a shift from the life they led, to live in a hostile environment. But it taught them one thing – make hay while the sun shines. As soon as her husband found another job, they did not hesitate. They immediately started putting up a house. They had learnt that one does not have to wait to have a lot of money to own a home, besides, Rome was not built in a day.
Though she feels abused by her in-laws for the two years she lived with them, it was in a way an eye-opener over the importance of owning your own shelter. It also gives one dignity such that even when you are out of employment, you are still under your own roof and not squatting with friends or relatives.
When you live under another person’s roof, you may not like some of their rules and it gives you little say because you cannot impose your own beliefs or rules in another person’s home.
Until next week, let’s keep in touch.
dkasote@daily-mail. co.zm

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