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Policing partner will not stop infidelity

Speak Out on Violence: DORIS KASOTE
HOUSEWIFE or not, when a woman wants to cheat, she will cheat. It’s surprising that some men feel that when their wives are full-time housewives, then there is no chance of them seeing other men.
At the end of the day, it’s about self-discipline because some people cheat right under your nose and you will have no idea. A person’s life should not revolve around another.
Being in love is one thing, but it is also important to develop oneself instead of your life coming to a standstill because of another individual.
It is said when you are looking for something, you will definitely find it, so live your life and give your partner some space.
Sometimes when you police your partner too much, you actually drive them away. I know of a man who stopped his wife from working because he felt what he termed disgusting the behaviour of career women.
He said his former wife is educated but he could not imagine her leaving the house to go for work with an obvious possibility of mingling with men, whether professionally or not, but the whole idea unsettled him. The only time, as far as he was concerned, that his wife would leave home was when she was going to do the groceries or to church.
Whenever he knocked off from work, she was always home to give him a warm welcome. He would brag to his friends how well-schooled his wife was. She was heaven-sent. There was no way she could cheat on him. What would she be looking for, anyway, because he provided her with everything?
He got the shock of his life when he suddenly went home after he forgot his laptop. His wife was not in the living room where she usually spent her time watching television.
Well, that did not bother him because he was convinced she was probably busy with house chores somewhere in the house.
He quickly barged into the bedroom and what he found almost resulted in him having a heart attack. The wife and one of his drivers were in a compromising situation.
The man dropped the documents that were in his hands and was numb for a moment. He did not know how to react. He walked away and went to sit in the living room.
As though he was hallucinating, he saw his driver run out of the house while his wife knelt before him asking for forgiveness. All he told her was to pack her belongings and leave. However, he insisted that she leaves the children behind. That was the end of the marriage.
The moral of the story is that it is not possible to police or confine a person because you do not want them to be exposed to cheating. When a person wants to cheat, they will still do it. You are never with your partner 24/7, you have no idea what he or she may be up to.
Until next week.
Let’s keep in touch.
dkasote@daily-mail.co.zm


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