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Our parents do not want us to marry

GODLY COUNSEL with PASTOR KATAI
Dear Pastor
I AM a young lady aged 22 in a relationship with a man aged 31. I really love him and he loves me too. Now we have a problem with our parents. They do not want us to get married because my sister is married to his half uncle. What can we do?
ANS: Sis, thanks for writing to Godly Counsel. No matter how old you may be, a parent will remain a parent and the Bible teaches every child to obey his/her parents. (Ephesians 6:1-3). Your parents and his are right to reject your love proposal. How can you marry from the same family your sister has married from? Traditionally and biblically it is not allowed and should not be allowed in your case. Leviticus 18 addresses all illicit relationships and sexual relations. You should immediately stop your illicit love affair otherwise it shall mount to incest. Blessings!
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I am tired of his calls and texts. What shall I tell him?
Dear pastor
I am a young woman aged 20. I got myself in a relationship with a man I met on Facebook but during our chats with him I got offended and I lost interest. I never met him because I was out of town. Now I am back I can’t rest because he wants to see me and talk. He says he loves me and will do anything to get me, but I am no longer interested. I have told him that but he can’t listen. I am tired of his calls and texts. What shall I tell him? Help please….worried.

ANS: Dear worried, how can you be convinced that the man you have never met before loves you so much? It is not safe to date someone you don’t know and have not met before. Chatting via social media for a serious relationship is not ideal. If you no longer have interest in him, tell him. If he can’t listen to you, just ignore him. Remove him from your Facebook stream of friends instantly and never respond to his calls and texts. Before you go to bed ensure your cell phone is switched off. Scream in his face, “I no longer have interest in you, please give me a break.” Blessings!
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I fell in love with a 41-year-old woman
Dear pastor
Hope you are well. I am a single male aged 29 who fell in love with a 41-year-old woman. She is divorced with six children but she lied that she only had two children. When I started staying with her a problem arose and I decide to leave her but she refused, so what should I do now?

ANS: Brother, I am very fine, hope you too. May I hasten to query you in this fashion; why did you in the first place fall in love with a woman older than you by far who is supposed to be your ‘elder’ sister when there are so many young ladies around looking for young men to marry? Secondly, why co-habit with a stranger whose background is not known? What was really going round in your mind as young as 29 when you have potential for a great future? Why risk your future young man? See where you are today! Now you want to exit out of that arrangement. Well, it is the battle you need to fight single-handedly. The way you started it is the way you should end it. In the same manner you entered you have to come out and leave your ‘elder’ sister alone. If you have done something in her life, then you have no option but to continue and formalise things. Blessings!
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Love proposal: How can I express my feelings?
Dear Pastor
I am a man aged 22, pursuing a diploma in early childhood teacher education at Mufulira Professional College. I have a close friend; a girl aged 20. She is in grade 12. I have started developing interest in her and thinking of marring her one day if she accepts my proposal but I don’t know how to express my feelings…please pastor I need your advice.
ANS: Brother, there is nothing wrong with loving someone and it’s not difficult to say, “I love you, I would like to spend my life time with you, will you?” But my concern is the current status of both of you. You are both going to school and I am of the view you concentrate on studying – one thing at a time. Why don’t you, for now, invest your time and energy in your studies to first realise your dream and later on look for a companion? Your advances to this “little angel” might disturb her studies. I, therefore, suggest that you give her chance to concentrate on school. Ecclesiastes 3:1-7. Blessings!
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Counsel to lady torn between two men
Dear Pastor,
Contribution to counsel: A lady torn between two men 90 percent work and too much drinking. Young ladies should look for work not money in a man to marry. Ladies should find a man working to fulfill the scripture, Helper to the husbands. Genesis 2:18. You can not help someone doing nothing. So your advice was 100 percent correct I appreciate your ministry.
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Love Lines
Dear Pastor
I am a keen follower of your articles, pastor, and I must commend you for the good work you are doing. I’m looking for a God-fearing lady aged 19 to 23 to date. My contact is 0969-906060. Thank you and God bless you.
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Dear Pastor
I am a male aged 42 looking for a woman aged 32, positive traditional and Christian. 0975-851315.
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Dear pastor
I am a man aged 48 and looking for a responsible and mature lady. My former wife died in 2005 since then I have not remarried. 0978-344134.
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Dear Pastor
I am a male aged 25 looking for a young lady, slim, loving, humble aged 20. Interested 0969-782124.
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Dear Pastor
I am a man aged 25 looking for a lady to marry aged between 20-22. Serious ladies to call 0969-223121, 0975-357773.
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Tip of the Week
Marriage: Making a marriage work is a divinely inspired art form. And like any work of art, it takes time, attention to detail and, sometimes, an occasional repair. The more we understand God’s design for marriage, the more our love grows”. Blessings!
More answers in the next edition and ensure you get a copy every Sunday. Meanwhile let’s continue interacting via email pkatai@yahoo.com or thabokatai@gmail.com  or sms 0967/0955-778068.

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