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Parents shouldn’t overprotect children

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Children’s Corner with PANIC CHILUFYA
BY NATURE, a parent is a child’s first teacher and remains the best teacher and mentor throughout life.
In the eyes of a child, a parent is a superhero who can solve any problem and can do no wrong.
This is because a parent functions as a coach, who exposes a child to age-appropriate challenges as part of development and experiences that allow a child to explore on their own and learn from interacting with their environment.
A protective nature is one of the most important traits that parents need if they are to raise their children well.
But an overprotective parent can disadvantage the development of a child who tends to be stifled.
For instance, there are parents who are reluctant to allow their children to interact with their peers outside a school environment under the guise of trying to protect their children from whatever fears they might have or harbor.
Overprotective parents tend to protect their children harm, hurt, pain, unhappiness, bad experiences, rejection, failure and disappointments; these could be true or perceived feelings.
In as much as it is important to protect children, it is equally important to allow children learn through personal experiences, only then will they be able to make better and informed decisions as they grow into adulthood.
Overprotective parents tend to instil fear in most situations and by doing this; they end up creating fear-filled, anxious, emotionally-retarded children who cannot function unless there is a parent’s hand to hold on to.
Parents who continually hover over their children especially are often described as helicopter parents.
Such parents are aptly named because they hover so closely around their children; they rarely let the children out of their reach. For children who are growing, the embarrassment caused by this behaviour from their parents can be agonizing and embarrassing. This type of parenting or smothering is ineffective and it fails to instil virtues and values such as responsibility, courage, self-esteem, self-respect or confidence.
Difficult as it might be, as soon as children start growing and developing, it is imperative for parents to slowly let go and allow children to fall, make mistakes, experience rejection, feel jealous and suffer defeat. Parents should let go and watch their children grow in confidence, skill, responsibility and emotional intelligence as they learn from all life has to offer.
Parents should learn to let go of the attachment to their children and find constructive ways of releasing those fears and insecurities which can be unhealthy if not dealt with properly, they can be transferred to the children.
Remember, children are our future, until next week, take care.
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