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Not all that glitters is gold

Speak Out on Violence: DORIS KASOTE
A BIRD in hand is worth two in the bush basically means that it is better to hold onto something one has than to risk losing it by trying to get something better.
However, as human beings, we tend to think what is next door is better than what we have right in front of us. Sometimes what may seem as a picture perfect relationship may be nowhere near perfection.

Couples usually show what the world wants to see and from there, the world will draw conclusions of how happy and exemplary some couples are. Sometimes, it may be learnt that those that do not make an effort to prove that they are a picture perfect couple are the ones who are by far better than those that try so hard.

You will agree with me that some spouses are like white on rice towards each other and with such people, it shows that their intimacy flows naturally, they do not need to make an effort.
I am sure you are wondering where all this is going. I am inclined to talk about a woman that gave her husband sleepless nights because she was always comparing him to the Joneses.
The woman felt their circle of friends were better than them and that the husband was not trying hard enough.
It is worth noting that God blesses people in different ways. There is no one person who would claim they have it all. In one area or the other, every human being lacks. The best is to work with what one has and look on the bright side.
Anyway, getting back to the story, when the Joneses bought a new car, furniture or sent their children to expensive schools, she was on her husband, screaming at him to live up to his friends’ lifestyle.
The man would opt to stay away from home by spending late hours in the office because the minute he walked through the door at his house, he did not receive any pleasantries.
Because of his wife’s rantings, the man was sometimes tempted to dip in the finances at work but his conscience could not allow him. He felt the only way out was to take a break from his marriage, hoping the wife could accept their status in society, besides, it’s not as though the family went hungry. The wife was never content with what was placed before her.
Life is not a competition, it’s no point to try and prove a point to the outside world. The same world you are trying to prove a point to does not even bother about what you have and do not have.
Not all that glitters is gold.
Until next week, let’s keep in touch.
dkasote@daily-mail.co.zm

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