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‘My husband has become impotent’

Dear Pastor,
MY HUSBAND and I decided to reconcile three years after he ran away from home. We have been together for 6 years now and he has become impotent. I know he has diabetes which maybe the cause but from my research he can get help from the hospital to help solve the problem. Unfortunately, he is not doing so. I am a Christian and I know that marriage is for better and for worse. Please help me.
ANS: Dear sister thanks for your mail and for sharing your problem with Godly Counsel. It is true diabetes does contribute somehow to one becoming impotent.
To get an erection, men need healthy blood vessels, nerves, male hormones, and a desire to be sexually stimulated. Diabetes can damage the blood vessels and nerves that control erection.
However, there are some medical interventions that can be undertaken. Men with diabetes having trouble with achieving and/or maintaining an erection can take oral medications and this can be done with the help of a specialist doctor.
My dear sister, take a bold step for both of you to visit the nearest health centre to get help from specialist medical personnel. Encourage your beloved husband to prioritise this matter to save your marriage. You are the best person to act as his source of encouragement and inspiration for him to have a strong desire to seek medical attention.
In all your efforts to go round this problem, be reminded that what is impossible with man is possible with God. (Mark 10:27). As a Christian, do not lose focus but have faith in God that your beloved husband can receive lasting solution to his problem. Blessings!
My man has quietly disappeared!
Dear pastor,
How are you? I am a girl aged 22 turning 23 in October. My guy left me for no apparent reason. He just went quiet on me without a word. When I called him to find out what was between us, he responded: “I don’t know what’s between us when I do, I will let you know”. Pastor what should I do, honestly? I am confused.
ANS: Dear sister, I am very fine and thanks for your mail. Do not be confused with his response, rather be encouraged to soldier on. This man does not hold your future in his hands but your Creator does.
To me, this man appears not to be ready for this relationship. He is still debating within himself either to go ahead or not.
I am of the view that you do not seem to push him so much to make a decision under duress. For now like he requested from you, give him enough time to reflect on this matter and his future.
What you should do for now is to wait for him to make a decision. (Psalm 27:14). Give him enough rope to hang himself.
Albeit, make a physical follow up to seek an audience with him so that you can table the matter and resolve it once and for all to avoid waiting unnecessarily. Do not call him but visit and chart your way forward.
In the meantime remain prayerful for God’s grace, direction and guidance for your future. Do not lose hope, be courageous and strong, all shall be well with you. (Isaiah 3:10). If one door closes, God will open another. Blessings!
How can I be imparted with power to cast out demons?
Dear Pastor,
I am a church elder in a Christian Community Church. How can I receive or be imparted with anointing, grace, healing and demon casting power in Jesus’ name?
ANS: Dear church elder/civil servant thanks for your text. Divine power cannot be purchased on the market like you would buy food to fill up your tummy. (Acts 8:14-20).
The Bible records that, “But when the Holy Spirit comes upon you, you will be filled with power, and you will be witnesses for me in Jerusalem, in all of Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.” (Acts 1:8).
But for you to receive the Holy Spirit, true repentance has to take place in your life (Acts 2:36-38). Acknowledge your sins, confess and forsake them all. Embark on the journey of righteousness and holiness to become a true worshipper.
Through the true worship and prayer God shall impart His Gift of power of the Holy Spirit as you devote yourself fully and stay in Jesus’s presence.
Do not be derailed by miracles you watch on some TV channels. Real Christian living is not about performing miracles or casting out demons but striving every day to live a holy life before your Creator to ensure your name is written in the book of life (Luke 10:17-20). Miracles come from God as bonus for righteous living. Hunt for holiness and righteousness daily and not miracles. Blessings!
Love Lines:
Dear Pastor,
I am lady aged 30 HIV+ mother of a boy and looking for a partner of the same status aged 32 or above. 0966-190939, 0976-955124.
Dear Pastor,
I am male aged 25 looking for a serious lady to date between 18-24. 0965-014315.
Dear Pastor,
I am man aged 39 from Tanzania looking for a serious single lady to date aged 25-38. Sms or call +255-0673446614.
Dear Pastor,
I am man aged 24 looking for a female friend aged 18-21, God fearing. Interested call 0968-454121, 0954-253090.
Dear Pastor,
I am a man aged 38 looking for a HIV + lady to marry within Lusaka. Please no time wasters. 0961-263485.
Tip of the Week
Marriage: What is impossible with man is possible with God. (Mark 10:27) take it to God in prayer. Blessings!
More answers in the next edition and ensure you get a copy every Sunday. Meanwhile let’s continue interacting via email or or sms 0967/0955-778068. Emailing is encouraged for quick response.

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