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Men should remember role to protect wives

Life & Life Issues with EMMANUEL MUKULA
ONE of the most important roles of a husband is to protect his wife.
A husband should use his strength to protect his wife from any physical harm.
He should put himself in harm’s way instead of risking her.
He has to have the ability to react with strength even at the risk of his own harm.
A real man will face his own harm to keep his wife from suffering at the hand of others even from his own family.
If you do not live day to day honouring, blessing and serving your wife, what assurance would she have concerning what assurance she would have of her safety? It is that long, daily commitment through many years of marriage that is the true proving ground for a man’s desire to protect his wife.
Don’t just die for your wife–live for her!
A husband will protect his wife’s heart. One of the ways he does this is by becoming her student.
He learns what she loves and learns what she hates; he learns what draws her heart to him and what turns her heart from him. He avoids anything that will damage or scar her heart. “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honour to the woman as the weaker vessel” (1 Peter 3:7).
You should also protect your wife sexually. This is a particular area of responsibility from a husband to a wife.
A husband will not demand of his wife what she is unwilling or unable to give.
He will not force her or badger her into sexual deeds that violate her body or violate her conscience.
He seeks to protect her from any kind of sexual harm, including the false messages that can come from crazy movies or from pornography.
As a husband you need to understand God’s purposes in sexuality and protect your wife from any violation of them.
You need to understand from 1 Corinthians 7 that your desire in sex should be pursuing your wife’s desires rather than your own.
Protect your wife spiritually, primarily by your commitment to praying for her, to hold her up before the throne of God. Commit yourself to praying for her every day and even many times a day.
Pray for her constantly, repeatedly, unceasingly. Know that your prayers, as her leader, as her husband, must have special value before God.
Commit yourself to this practice and look for the evidence of God’s response to your earnest supplications.
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