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Marriage is not a bed of roses

Love & Life Issues with EMMANUEL MUKULA
WE ALL have weaknesses. As the saying goes every rose flower has its own thorns. If you focus too much on your spouse’s weakness, you will never see their good side. Always remember that no one is an angel. Therefore, avoid snooping into one’s past. What matters is the present life of your partner. Old things are passed away.

Try to forgive and forget. The past can’t be changed. Focus on the present and the future and make your marriage thrive.

Always remember that marriage is not a bed of roses. Every smilingly perfect marriage has gone through its own rough patches. True love is proved in time of challenges. Fight for your marriage and make up your mind to stay with your spouse in challenging times. Remember the vows you made.
Refuse to compare your marriage with anyone’s. No two marriages are the same, every marriage lacks in one area or the other just like an individual. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard, and with time, your marriage dreams shall come true. Declare a war against enemies of marriage.
Some of the enemies of marriage are not being prayerful, unforgiveness, adultery, third-party influence, selfishness, stubbornness, lack of love and rudeness. Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage.
We should never lie to ourselves. There is no already made marriage anywhere. Marriage is hard work, volunteer yourself and perfect it daily.
Marriage is like a car and its parts. If these parts are not properly maintained, the car will break down somewhere along the way and exposing the occupant to unhealthy circumstances. Many of us are careless about our marriages and don’t pay much attention to what matters.
You should realise that courtship is different from marriage, so learn to adjust to living with your spouse and be accommodative. You cannot predict what will happen after the marriage vows are taken because the situation may change, so leave room for adjustment.
Certain situations may include a pregnancy not coming in the next five years. You may have been attracted to your wife because she was slim, then later, with the coming of children, her weight becomes uncontrollable.
A husband who was the bread-winner may lose his job, meaning as a woman, you have to shoulder all the responsibilities. But do not despair, hold on to God and with time, your situation will improve.
Marriage needs total commitment and love is the glue that makes a couple stick together. At the end of the day, marriage is like a bank account. It is the money you deposit into your bank account that you can withdraw. If you don’t deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate for a blissful home. There is no free love in marriage. You cannot love without giving and sacrificing.
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