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Marriage desperation major cause of GBV

Speak Out on Violence: DORIS KASOTE
CULTURE is a major contributing factor to how marriage is portrayed.
This is evident by how some women race against time when they realise that their clock is ticking and there is no man in sight hinting that they have plans to tie the knot.
Some men have ended up walking away from such relationships where the woman is seen to be too desperate for marriage. Such desperation pushes men away as they feel they are being pushed against the wall.
The levels of desperation to keep a marriage continues once the woman is finally a wife. However, such desperations should not be at the expense of your child’s happiness.
Stories of husbands abusing their step or biological children have escaped the law enforcers. This is because the woman in the home would rather save her marriage and ignore the victim of sexual abuse, who may even be her own daughter.
Such dirt is swept under the carpet and the family is expected to live a normal life. If the perpetrator can abuse a child under his own roof, what about the countless voices out there that go unreported.
This is why the call by Kembe Member of Parliament Princess Kasune that women should report to police husbands or partners who sexually abuse their children or dependents is food for thought and should be taken seriously.
She was speaking at the Non-Governmental Organisations Coordinating Council (NGOCC) secretariat during the launch of the social media campaign dubbed ‘Hashtag HearMeToo’ which is part of the 16 days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence (GBV).
“The tendency of keeping quiet is killing us. Desperation of keeping our marriage or relationship should not make us entertain GBV against our girl child,” she said.
I agree with her that women should speak out on GBV involving their girl children regardless of who the perpetrator is.
Some of these women have gone to the extent of blaming a child or dependent for being a victim of GBV and ignored the acts of the perpetrator who usually goes scottfree committing crime when he should be off the streets and behind bars where he belongs.
GBV is a crosscutting issue. It requires all stakeholders, regardless of the background to join hands and fight the vice. If you have never been a victim, you certainly know someone who has but usually people turn a blind eye and expect the problem to sort itself out.
This fight should not only be emphasised during this period of 16 days of activism which runs from November 25 to December 10 but it should be a fight that should receive the same kind of attention throughout the year.
Until next week,
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