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Let’s respect, honour parents

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Children’s Corner with PANIC CHILUFYA
THE Fifth commandment states; “honour your father and your mother, your days may be long upon which the land which the Lord your God giveth you” (Exodus 20:12).
This commandment is the anchor upon which society rests – it is an integral part of human civilisation. It helps children to see how learning about respect and honour in a family setting helps them to prepare how to show honour to the ultimate Father above – God.
God intended for children to continue showing respect and honour to parents and elderly people as they age.
In the same way parents take care of their children, there comes a time as they get older when roles are reversed; when parents need the same help they gave out when they were younger and stronger.
It is this attachment, which makes dealing with the death of a parent or parents the most difficult experience a child can go though. The death of a parent before a child is supposed to be the natural order of things, it is hard to simply bounce back and continue with life as if nothing happened.
It is the most difficult experience, especially for those who did not enjoy a cordial and loving relationship because issues of guilt come in due to unresolved issues or conflicts. However, whatever the case might be, it is a devastating time.
And it takes some time to overcome such a loss, but for those who have a loving relationship, it is easier to accept the loss for they honoured and took care of their parents.
Although there is no specific way to cope with the loss of a parent, there are some strategies that can help make the loss easier such as:
Never letting anyone belittle the sense of loss, make a child feel guilty for grieving deeply or hurry a child through their grief because it can be intense and has its complexities.
Mourning a parent, like all forms of grief, can be exhausting emotionally, physically and spiritually. It is imperative to go through all the stages because it takes time and it is never entirely over. In the eyes of a parent, a child will always be a child regardless of age. That is why even an adult child will still experience feelings of abandonment and uncertainty after the death of a parent.
It is equally important to realise that even after a parent is gone, they continue to be part of the child’s life, hence the need to nurture and treasure the memories.
To avoid regrets, it is equally important to abide by the Fifth Commandment to always honour and take care of parents in the best way possible – it actually helps to make the grieving process easier.
Caring for parents, especially the elderly, is no longer an obligation some children accept willingly, but parents are angels sent on earth – they are a blessing and should always be honoured.
Remember, children are our future, until next week, take care.
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