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Helicopter parenting

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Children’s Corner with PANIC CHILUFYA
WHILE most of parents I know including myself are guilty of practicing ‘helicopter parenting’, it is disheartening to learn in some cases it is parents who are actually perpetrators who are inflicting immense and irreparable harm to their off spring.
By definition, helicopter parenting which is also referred to as cosseting parent or a cosseter, is a parent who pays extremely close attention to a child’s or children’s experiences and problems, particularly at educational institutions.
By nature, a parent is supposed to be the first person a child should feel most secure and protected by in whatever circumstance but going by media reports, children especially girls are not safe even in their own homes, they are extremely vulnerable.
It is because of this that Government has challenged women to be wary with the way men in the homes relate with girl children irrespective of the connection or relationship.
Ministry of Gender Permanent Secretary Auxilia Ponga said that it is heart-breaking for close family members to take advantage of innocent girls who are in danger of being infected with diseases or end up falling pregnant.
Such acts do not only violate the rights of victims but can also lead to lifelong psychological and emotional problems. Studies have shown how some girls who have been victims of abuse by close family members usually have problems sustaining relationships in adulthood especially when they have to interact with the opposite sex. Most times, they end up forming friendships for all the wrong reasons instead of being in mutually beneficial relationships.
Some girls, as a result of the abuse become rebellious and have issues of trust; they look at everyone even those well-meaning intentions with suspicion and such feelings are likely to haunt the victims as long as they live.
It is not only the victims who have a difficult time, even children born from such cases; often times they are stigmatised in society that often lead to emotional challenges.
It is astounding that some parents have no qualms about subjecting their children especially girls to living a miserable and unfortunate life just to satisfy their selfish desires.
A parent should always be the first person of choice; a guardian angel that a child runs to whenever the child feels hurt, insecure or afraid with the hope of being protected no matter how scary a situation might be.
Remember, children are our future, until next week, take care.
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