Columnists Features

Don’t kill, love them


OF LATE, I have been baffled by a series of killings involving people in love or at least in intimate relationships.
The big question is: what in the world is going on in our society? It’s like our morals are under threat of erosion more than ever before. That observation is lent credence by the fact that ours is a Christian nation. Are we living up to the ideals of a Christian nation? Are our parents guiding us properly? And are researchers addressing this unfortunate trend?
Questions might not end seeing that the situation is bizarre as far as our nation is concerned, and the best way to tackle this vice would probably be through focused research into the unbecoming situation. Could the problem be cheating?; selfishness? Or even lack of trust in relationships? Well, it’s not easy to tell.
This, to me, looks like the fulfilment of biblical prophecy. The Bible says that in the last days people shall kill regardless of relationship.
A thorough look at the issue would definitely prove useful as Zambia strives to walk the talk, vis-à-vis its Christian nation declaration.
Zambia was declared a Christian nation 25 years ago and the reason is obvious; so that people should try by all means to live a Christ-like life and thereby enjoy much peace, moral uprightness and prosperity, to mention but a few. The whole objective of the country’s declaration was to help people to keep away from sin and stick to the 10 Commandments. I sound like a clergyman, don’t I? Yes, the Bible says the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom and we are all obligated to be wise if at all we envision a quiet and productive life. Just think of it, you kill someone and spend your entire life behind bars.
My tackling this issue is informed by biblical perspectives. That is the reason I have cited the 10 Commandments, which have actually provided that sure foundation for legal laws all over the world.
It is important to address the sad development of ‘love’ killings in terms of Christianity because Zambians are predominantly Christian and anything Christian would make sense to them.
Whether we like it or not, the killings have had a toll on us. Like HIV and AIDS, it’s either you are involved in one way or the other, you’re a victim or have someone close who is, thus, affected.
How can we explain the strange killings? Is it a red mist? A red mist is a feeling of extreme competitiveness or anger that temporarily clouds one’s judgement. It is important to address that question because if one takes this case study, it clearly shows a major misjudgement among people.
What are authorities doing about this, apart from making arrests when the killings take place? I strongly feel relevant authorities must come up with sensitisation counselling programmes in communities. They can do this through holding meetings or roadshows for instance.
Domestic violence against men has something to do with men or boys in intimate relationships such as marriage, cohabitation, dating, and family. Violence against men may constitute a crime, but laws vary between jurisdictions. Regarding the mistreatment of men by women, and women by men, there are differences in terms of the level of gravity the problem is given depending on the geographic region, and physically abusive behaviour by one partner towards another is regarded varyingly as a serious crime to a more personal matter.
Whereas women who experience domestic violence are openly encouraged to report it to the authorities, it has been argued that men who experience such violence often encounter pressure against reporting, with those that do risking facing social stigma regarding their perceived lack of machismo and other denigrations of their masculinity.
All in all, both men and women must avoid this evil by loving each other and not killing. If they fail to cope with each other, then they must part ways rather than hanging on to something that might cause trouble in future.
The author is a sub-editor at Zambia Daily Mail

Facebook Feed