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Dealing with difficult children in public

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Children’s Corner with PANIC CHILUFYA
MOST parents have had the experience of dealing with difficult children in public; to avoid being embarrassed it is advisable to remain as calm as possible.
Any other reaction would only aggravate the situation further.
Although attempting to maintain one’s cool is easier said than done, it is the best technique to calm down children who have a tendency of acting up especially in public.
This reminds me of how a mother recently during a gathering was desperately trying to silence her daughter but the child was having none of it; instead the child began sobbing loudly while reaching out for her mother’s handbag.
The more the mother tried to reason with her daughter, the louder the child sobbed which resulted in heads turning towards the mother and daughter.
To avoid further embarrassment and accusatory eyes, the mother gave the little girl her handbag which the little girl happily rummaged through; to find whatever it is she was looking for.
Finding ways of calming difficult children is important because children behave and understand situations differently depending on their age. For older children, it is quite easy to reason with them but when children are younger, it is not possible especially if the children are playing up public.
It is the responsibility of the adult to guide children so that children understand acceptable and unacceptable behaviour especially in public where some people can be quite intolerant and judgmental when dealing with difficult or truant children.
It is imperative for an adult to try to be as calm as possible as the case with the young mother because children normally act out based on their stage of development and comprehension of things around them.
Adults should be able to understand why some children behave in a particular manner, for instance, the sobbing little girl could have been always allowed to play with her mother’s handbag at home, and hence she could not understand why her mummy was not letting her to do the same thing in public.
It is advisable for the adult to find a sober way to deal with difficult or truant behaviour instead of being angry or frustrated so that such children learn to take responsibility for their actions.
However, this is not to say this is always the best way to deal with difficult children because they are also individuals who often behave depending on circumstances. While parenting can be an emotional and trying experience, as much as possible, it calls for calmness when dealing with difficult children. When adults show their children how to calm down in whatever situation; it is an important life skill that children are likely to master as they grow older.
Remember, children are our future, until next week, take care.
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