LOVE & LIFE ISSUES with EMMANUEL MUKULA
I HAVE always believed that cheating can be avoided. All it takes is good conduct and commitment to our partners. I also do not believe those who cheat can justify their actions that they did not realise what they were doing or probably that it was a mistake.
I would like to share a few ways in which we can avoid cheating and have a joyous marriage.
It is advisable not to make someone of the opposite sex your best friend who you even confide in.
Never spend time with anybody of the opposite sex that your spouse does not know. You should also not talk ill of your spouse in the presence of anybody, especially those of the opposite sex. They will conclude you are not happy in your marriage.
Be proud of your marriage. You should also not keep secrets from your spouse.
For married women, avoid accepting gifts and favours from men. Such men will always expect sex in return.
Never think any man or woman is better than your spouse. You don’t know what their spouses are enduring at home. What you are seeing outside may not be what is really obtaining on the ground. Don’t be deceived. The grass always seems greener on the other side.
Focus your sexual fantasies on your spouse. He or she is planted into your life to satisfy you and keep you holy. Always remember that whatever every woman or man has in his or her body, your spouse has it too and they are not different from each other.
Seriously deal with any sexual thoughts that are not directed towards your spouse. Get rid of such thoughts beforethey cause you regrets.
Those who struggle with infidelity should also seek prayers.
Don’t die in silence while fighting what has the potential of destroying your marriage.
Begin to walk with God and decent people. If you keep company with adulterers, you will also become one.
Proverbs 6:32-33: “But whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding: he that does it destroys his own soul. A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away”.
I wish to remind you to always count the cost of adultery. Don’t just look at the pleasure, look at the pain, loss of integrity, how you will hurt your wife or husband, children, friends and, above all, God the Almighty.
Always remember that the excitement, pleasure and the thrills that are in sex only last for a short while. The consequences can be long-lasting.
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